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Ce que j'ai découvert durant le dialogue "Guérir le passé"

Lundi, 15. octobre 2012
Participants of Healing the Past seminar, Crimea 2012

Du 6 au 9 septembre, un dialogue sur le thème "Guérir le passé" s'est tenu au bord de la mer noire en Crimée. Cette partie de l'actuelle Ukraine comprend beaucoup de différentes cultures et ethnies qui ont subi des injustices historiques, y compris la famine et la réimplantation ethnique forcée durant les années stalinienne de l'Union soviétique.

18 personnes ont participé à ces quatre jours de dialogue qui était organisé par l'ONG Foundations for Freedom et la branche du club des jeunes leaders de Crimée (tous deux inspirés d'I&C) et financé par Kerk in Actie-ICCO (2glis en action, Pays-bas).

Le dialogue "Guérir le passé" est basé sur quatre grands principes : 

  • traiter chacun avec le même respect, la même honnêteté et la même intégrité ;
  • chercher ce qui est juste plutôt que qui a raison ;
  • faire face aux faits historiques force à se faire face à soi-même
  • façonner l'avenir implique la prise de responsabilité du passé  

Avec l'animation de Diana Damsa (Roumanie) et Olena Kashkariova (Ukraine) les participants ont appris à écouter, à entendre, à appréhender ; ils ont chercher des réponses à la question "qui sommes-nous?".

Une des participants, Yuliya Kryvosheyina, écrit à propos de son expérience (en anglais) : 

 

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I have long suspected that the secret of our world is love.

The dialogue-seminar 'Healing the Past' has just confirmed that for me. I don’t know exactly what I came to understand there, but I felt I was in an atmosphere where I could be sincere. And I learned that my words can hurt someone, even if they are true. 

I am very grateful to one girl, a Crimean Tatar, who shared with me her personal story impregnated with her pain. I felt, at the same time, her pain and also the indifference of the person who hurt her. Because this story was partly about me.

Ukraine dialogue Learning from the Past - Sept 2012At some point in my life, not speaking badly about Crimean Tatars became an achievement for me. Now I am ashamed of  bad way I used to think about them. I only hope that God will forgive me.

I used to think: 'How can I treat them nicely, if the adults around me say this and that ...' But at the seminar-dialogue 'Healing the Past' I realized that the past is so ambiguous. I can adopt one or the other side, and be hurt either way.

I can demand an apology - and justify my absence of love. Or I can forgive. Nothing else can be done with the past.

Yes, on the one hand it was so scary. I felt an enormous wall and that I couldn’t forgive. In my little heart there is so much weird and heavy junk.

And then I just came to a new way of thinking about things.

I am grateful to a girl with whom I’ve become friends over the last year. She has become a part of my life and invited me to visit her family. She told me about her situation. Only a year later have I started to really accept her. She has broken down my wall. Dialogue has helped me to understand that if one Crimean Tatar is my close friend, and if her family is so nice and hospitable, then WHOM does my heart have hatred for?

I have let it go.

I have a desire to understand the challenges that Crimean Tatars are facing today. And I want to help them to overcome those problems. I'm not taking sides with anyone. I’ve just understood myself and have seen that I have no reason to be indifferent to them.

 

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Le prochain dialogue « Guérir le passé » aura lieu les 15 et 18 novembre en Ukraine orientale. Les citoyens Ukrainiens de plus de 18 ans sont invités à s'inscrire en ligne ici (uniquement en langue ukrainienne).